The Missing Ingredient Is Character – Part Three

4> Good character engenders trust

When a person lives a fragmented life (see previous blog), others never know what to expect from him or her. They don’t know how the person will act in any given situation. They are not consistent. In contrast, a person of good character who lives by the same consistent standard invites trust. People know what they are going to get. They know the person;’s words and actions will line up. They can rely on the person and what he or she says.

Whenever you make a commitment to another person, you create hope. When you keep that commitment, you create trust. Good character helps you to follow through on that commitment and develop trust. 

Why is that important? Because all relationships are built on trust. So by increasing character potential, you build the trust needed to increase people potential. You will have more influence and more of an impact than someone that has not taken the time to develop their character and thus earn the trust of others. Increased people potential not only improves the quality of your life but also improves the qualities of your relationships, including your ability as a leader. When trust is absent, leadership falters. 

5> Good character is tested in times of trouble

Adversity doesn’t build character: it reveals it. When you have good character, difficulty only makes you more determined. When your character is weak, difficulty makes you discouraged. Work on your character now. When the storm comes, it’s too late to prepare.

6> Good character always take the high road

Most people want to treat others the way they’ve been treated. It’s human nature. That’s not the way I want to live and should not be the way you want to live – especially if you are in a Christian leadership position. I don’t want to treat others worse than they treat me. I want to treat others better than they treat me. I want to always take the high road.

I hope you will take a similar path. It’s true that sometimes you will be hurt – even by believers in the Church; especially by church members. You will be treated unfairly. People will take advantage of you. But wouldn’t you rather make the world a better place and help other people?

7> Good character delivers on its promises

When you say you’ll do something, do you follow through? Are you known as someone who delivers? Or do others sometimes worry that you may give up or not show up. Booker T. Washington said, “Character is power.” Make the most of it.

Scientist Marie Curie observed, “You cannot hope to build a better world without improving the individuals. To that end, each of us must work on his own improvement, and at the same time share a general responsibility for all humanity.” 

If you want to build your character, your need to try to align four things:

      • Your values
      • Your thinking
      • Your feelings
      • Your actions

If your values are good and you make the other three things consistent with them, there’s almost nothing you can’t improve in your life.

Are you willing to do the mundane work of increasing your character capacity? It probably won’t receive any fanfare. In fact, you may be the only person who’ll ever know what steps you’ve taken to grow in this area. But I guarantee that you will see positive results and live a better life.