I have found that people like to talk about themselves. In fact, their favorite topic is themselves. And regretfully believes are actually no different. They too love to talk about themselves. For the Christian “I am always on my mind” could be a new theme song. It should not be this way.
It seems that the power of the flesh far exceeds that of any evil spirit in hindering the work of God. God isn’t in a struggle with the devil, He has already defeated him. His desire is that our will, our willful and unruly flesh, be in submission to His Spirit. He purposes to dethrone each of us from the center of our lives, that we might learn to stop talking about oursevles and start listening to those who do not know Him – the unsaved and talk about Him to them.
You cannot expect the unsaved to stop talking about themselves. They are walking according to the flesh and not according to the Spirit. They are fighting with two “wills” that exist within them and that fight against the will of God being known and accomplished. The Bible states that the will of the flesh and the will of man (the soul will) fight against the will of God at all times (John 1:13). So, we can expect them to talk about themselves as they do not know the Lord and are not submitted to the will of God in their lives.
But the believer – now that is a different story. They are suppose to be submitted to the will of God. They are called to walk with God and to walk in humility. Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less! Yet, this is not what a person experiences when talking to most believers. They are very self-centered and full of their own importance and talk about their issues any opportunity they are given. As a result they don’t listen as they should and so miss the opportunities available to share Jesus with those who do not know Him. Because many believers act exactly like non-believers act we become poor witnesses to others because our thoughts are self-centered and not other-centered or even Jesus-centered.
For others to come to know Jesus as Lord and Savior the believer, who already has a personal relationship with Him, needs to be talking about Him more than they talk about themselves. They need to learn to listen to what others are saying and then speak about the Lord in the context of what is being shared by the non-believer. This means learning to listen with the heart and sharing from the heart … and not the head. It means no longer being your own favorite topic. It means self can no longer be the focus – and Jesus must become the focus. We are to have the mind of Christ and then He will always be on our mind. And, we will be talking a lot more about Him with others.
The point: It would be good for the next few days to monitor what you talk about with others; what you write about on Facebook and Twitter; what you spend time thinking about. Then, as appropriate, make some necessary and important changes.