Stop Worrying

As we continue to face major changes in the way we live life due to the Coronavirus commonly known at Covid-19 … I am noticing how many people are worried about what is happening and what they should be doing. This is natural when you think about it. Jobs are being lost. Family income is being effected in adverse ways. Stores are closing. Schools and universities are closed. You can’t go out for coffee or a meal. Life as we know it has been abruptly interrupted. And, the level of concern and worry has gone up.

So, repeat after me: Hakuna matata. It means “no worries. You might think I’m kidding around or that I’ve watched The Lion King one too many time, but that is basically what the Bible says! Look at what Peter writes:

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7)

When Peter tells us to cast all our anxieties on the Lord, he means that we should take all of what bothers us in this world and what worries us and what gives us ulcers, and we should toss them into the mighty and waiting hands of the Father.

This includes every fear, worry, anxiety, or misgiving we may have about presenting the gospel and receiving rejection. I say this because it is a good time to be speaking to others about the Lord and eternal life. With people dying daily from the virus in almost every country of the world people’s hearts are open and the world is looking for hope. So, it is a great time to speak up and let others know that you are a born again believer. Ad, what exactly it is that you believe.

Are you nervous that the people may say no? Don’t worry about it. Cast your anxiety on the Lord. Are you anxious that a relationship might be ruined because you opened your mouth and told someone about Jesus? Hakuna matata. Give your distress to God.

Because, trust me, He can handle it. He created the world in seven days (technically six: He took a breather on the last one). He split the Red Sea in two. He raised His Son from the dead. I think He can handle a stomach full of butterflies not to mention the effects of the Coronavirus we are all suffering through.

Stop wasting time and energy fretting about how it’s going to turn out. Give every twinge and ounce of nerves to God and do what you have been called to do! Not just during the current crisis we are all involved in and facing daily. But, even after everything returns to normal or near normal, continue to trust God with all the things that worry and concern you. Be free. 

Researchers tell us that 95% of life is out of our control. So, stop worrying about and being anxious over everything that is happening. Focus and concentrate on the 5% that is within your control and move on with life. Leave the other 95% to God, our Heavenly Father. He is still in control and is very capable of taking care of things if we just let Him do so.

Stop worrying!

How to Deal With Betrayal

As a healthy Christian you are called to build relationships with those you come into contact with. This means opening your life and even your heart at time. Opening up to believer and non-believer alike. And, when we live relationally; when we are transparent and vulnerable; when we invite others into our lives … we are likely to be hurt at times. Betrayed. Rejected. Misunderstood. Attacked.

We need to have a heart that does not allow unforgiveness to fester. We need to instantly forgive those what betray our trust and not allow the situation to damage our heart and our relationship with God. We need to learn to deal with betrayal.

How much money would you spend to get an hour to ask Jesus all the questions you’ve ever wanted to ask Him? In person. Face-to-face.

What would it be worth to you to go back to the first century and spend an entire weekend with Jesus, watching Him perform miracles, listening to His teachings. participating in private conversations, watching Him pray and interact with others?

Most of us would give anything and everything to have such an opportunity and resulting experience. 

So, consider Judas. He had just such a weekend. And, in the midst of that weekend he betrayed Jesus. Seems somewhat ungrateful, doesn’t it? Jesus gave him a front-row seat to the most significant life ever lived, and Judas sold Him out.

And yet at the Last Supper, when Jesus washed His disciples feet, Jesus made sure that Judas was still present. Jesus knew that Judas was in the process of betraying Him and selling Him out for 30 pieces of silver. In a picture the sheer wonder of which leaves me in awe, Jesus used the two holiest hands that have ever existed, the two most precious hands in the history of mankind, the hands pierced for our salvation – Jesus took those exquisite hands and washed the feet of His betrayer.

Even in the face of ungratefulness and malice, Jesus kept the door open to relational reconciliation. He loved Judas to the end, essentially saying, “You can’t make me hate you. Your toxicity and anger and betrayal won’t change the way I act towards you.

Just as astonishing to me is what happened during the actual act of betrayal. When Judas walks up to Jesus to hand Him over to the soldiers, Jesus looks at Judas and says, “Do what you came for, friend” (Matthew 26:50)


How about skunk? How about snake?

Jesus said ‘friend’ because Jesus didn’t have any unforgiveness in His heart or soul. There was nowhere for unforgiveness and resentment to take root. He sets the example for all of us who call ourselves His disciples and followers.

God is radically for people. He wants everyone to come to a knowledge of the truth (1 Timothy 2:4). As His followers, we also must be for everyone, even if we oppose what they are doing. If we must live and work with toxic people, our call is to make sure their toxicity doesn’t become ours. We don’t threat them as they treat us. We don’t offer evil in exchange for evil. We love. We serve. We guard our hearts so that we are not effected or poisoned by their bad example. And we must continue to love them unconditionally. Accept them just as they are. As well as forgive them when they speak against you and cause others to speak against you and reject you.

Follow the example of Jesus who still considered Judas His friend.  

Loss of a Friend

Guest blogger – Bill (William) Lewis, Apostle, Author, and Teacher

By now everyone is affected by the coronavirus. It is changing our lives whether we have the sickness or not. It has been declared a pandemic. It has stretched its deadly effects throughout the world. The fear that has been generated is in some ways justified and in others, is extreme. There is a mob mentality that has taken hold as grocery store shelves are emptied of toilet paper, hand sanitizers, paper towels, and antibacterial soaps. The shortages are created by the panic.

The medical community and the governments have teamed together to shorten and stop the spread of the virus. The fear is rooted in the fact there is no vaccine or antidote which heightens the fear. As social interaction is curtailed; it causes the spread to slow and hopefully stop. The approach, while necessary, it wreaking havoc with businesses, the economy, and the stock market. The panic is pandemic as well.

However, there is the deeply human part of this. Take away the statistics, the panic, the fear, all the scams and abuses, and there is the human side. If you lose someone you love, care for, are friends with, it becomes personal. Families are devastated, decimated, and left bereft. Grief becomes the attending emotion. Blaming government, blaming medical professionals, blaming manufacturers for not having enough capacity to produce and protect, is futile and an attempt at shifting blame. Making it racist does not bring back any of those lost to the disease and blaming only causes bitterness and anger.

I, personally, have lost a dear friend to the virus. He called me one day to let me know he was in quarantine. He let me know his wife was in the hospital acutely ill. He was concerned for her life. We talked for a while and I asked him to keep me informed how they were doing. During those 10 days he called three times with updates that his wife was doing slightly better and that he was feeling some better. The last call was on a Thursday, reporting that she would probably be released from the hospital at the end of the week and that he was gaining strength. In less than 48 hours, he was gone. I received a message that he had passed. I was shocked, dismayed, and grieving.

My friend was Jean Marc Thobois, cousin of Joel and Emmanuel, other dear friends of mine. Jean Marc was an astounding scholar, particularly of Hebrew and studies of Israel. He spoke Hebrew and studied in Israel. He was working with a team of scholars to produce a new French translation of the Old Testament. He had invited me so many times to go to Israel with him, even offering to do so with just a handful of us. I had been planning to make it with him this October as he was scheduled to lead another educational tour. So, you see, things can become very personal.

Often, when things happen like this, we want to find as reason. We want to attach blame somewhere. We want to accuse God, accuse the government, accuse nations; we just want to be mad at someone and say it is their fault. Some want to make it an act of God, some want to attribute God’s judgment as the cause, some want to accuse the doctors and scientists for not being prepared. All those trains of thought are madness.

Life is fragile. Life is messy. When science finds the cure for one thing, another appears. Diseases seem to appear like they never existed before. Strains of these viruses often mutate and become stronger or more resistant to cures. Mankind will always struggle to live. It seems to me there is something in creation and the fall of man that contributes to the ongoing struggle for life. In times like these we are jolted out of complacency and acceptance of the day to day and forced to look at our mortality, the fragility of our existence, and the vagaries of living day to day. We are reminded that life can change in a moment, a twinkling of an eye, mid breath, between heartbeats.

Tragedy forces me to look beyond the uncontrollable. I have to go to someone who is the rock, the immutable, the Forever One. Thus, my only hope is in Jesus Christ who is the same yesterday, today, and forever. So, in spite of the panic, the fear, the losses, one thing holds true: Jesus Christ, Lord and Savior!

Be Confident – Be You

The Bible states and God says, “So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded” (Hebrews 10:35). Of course, our confidence is in Him and what He is doing in us and through us. On our journey with Jesus, as we discover who we are, we also learn what He has called us to do for Him and His Kingdom.

As we gain confidence in Him and thus who we are “in Christ” and what He has called us to do then we can reach the stage where we can relax and be confident and comfortable. You can “be confident in who you are, and comfortable with who you’re not.” In other words, you truly discover yourself – the real you that God created. And, you are then able to sort out and settle many of the issues that keep you from living a full and fulfilling life. You can separate what God expects of you and from you from what others expect and even demand. Your life-focus becomes much sharper and you stop wasting time trying to impress people or ‘keeping up with the Jones.’ You are too busy keeping up with Jesus and all that He is revealing to you about you. 

This means you can just be yourself. Being someone and thus something you’re not is exhausting. No one wins. You are plastic in your relationships. Conversations remain shallow and boring. You fear doing new things that might disturb the false ‘you’ that you have been projecting for years. You are fearful that if people really got to know you they would not like you and would reject you … walking away permanently. You live with that fear. You live ‘timid’ and afraid. As a result, you remain relationally unhealthy. And, never discover the real you; never experience what a healthy relationship is like; how life-giving and freeing it can be.

If you want to change and discover the real you and live with confidence … remember that if you cling to what got you to this point you will fail to evolve, and you will continue to be the you that you were never meant to be. 

However, if you want to create something that matters, for both yourself and others, you have to start where you are, with who you are and what you have. You can’t just jump into what you want and who God wants you to be. There are lots of small steps that you will need to take.The first being the way you see life, see yourself, and see what you do. To change your perspective you definitely need to push past your comfort zone. Get out of your rut no matter how comfortable that rut may be.

Remember this: Comfort zones are the places where dreams and hope go to die.

So, where others see the mundane and minimize it, you will need to see the possibility and maximize it. You will need to decide to live in “change mode” for the rest of your life, starting right now! You must stop thinking and believing small. I understand that what makes smallness difficult to overcome is that it feels easier and more comfortable than pressing forward into the new you and much bigger dreams. Just remember, comfort zones are the places where dreams and a better future go to die. Where the better you is buried and never discovered. You need to decide that no matter what happens you are going to move forward in the opposite direction to where you are currently headed.

Live fearlessly. Don’t allow past disappointments to abort today’s possibilities. See that everything is working together for your good. Don’t be petty.  Look for the good in everything. Find people – build relationships with people who love you, will stick with you, encourage you, and will be there for you regardless. There are relationships out there that are priceless. But they will be products of your own willingness to press into people, believe in them, love, take risks, and be open to the possibility of friendships and relationships that are open and transparent. 

Begin the journey and be yourself – the real you. Remember, being someone and thus something you’re not is exhausting. 

Criticism – Inevitable If…

Steve Jobs, co-founder of Apple, said, “If you want to make a dent in the universe, you’re going to take a few dents in your armour here and there.” When you do anything you will find out that someone will be critical. And, if you just sit there and do nothing, someone will be critical. The world is full of people who believe that their spiritual gift is criticism and that their ministry is to be critical of everyone. 

No one needs a critic. However, everyone needs someone who will critique the way they live and what they are doing. It’s like a healthy form of criticism. Critique is the method used by a qualified (key word here) person who will observe someone or the work they do so that they can help them be better and do better. We can all benefit from critique. We seldom benefit from someone who is simply critical and out to tear us down. 

When we listen to critique, it helps us identify our blind spots and see places we can get better. The Bible says it this way: “Listen to advice and accept disciple, and you’ll be wise for the rest of your life” (Proverbs 19:20 ISV).

So, while criticism can be lousy, even dangerous, critique can be incredibly healthy, ever helpful. You can think of one as lousy criticism and the other as helpful critique. The primary difference is in the carrier – the intent of the carrier, the words of the carrier, the spirit of the carrier. So, let’s outline the differences….

Criticism versus Critique

Critics are self-appointed                                   Critique is invited

Criticism finds fault                                            Critique looks for ways to improve

Criticism condemns                                            Critique encourages

Criticism is an accuser                                       Critique is an ally

Criticism is designed to bring you down        Critique is designed to build you up

Criticism is opinionated                                     Critique is collaborative

Criticism complains                                            Critique considers

Criticism can be hurtful                                     Critique can be helpful

Criticism magnifies the negative                     Critique magnifies the positive

We all need a coach – someone who will critique our lifestyle and our work. Most of us can do without the critics. A coach (mentor) will give us valuable input into life and ministry and we are wise to heed their advice and input.

Proverbs 13:18 ESV “Poverty and disgrace come to him who ignores instruction, but whoever heeds reproof is honoured.”

Proverbs 12:1 ESV “He who hates reproof is stupid!”

The Bible does not hold back – it says it as it is and certainly is “keeping it real.”

We become the best version of who we’re meant to be when we are coachable, eager to learn, and are open to correction and instruction. 


Dale Carnegie said, “Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn – and most folks do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

Aristotle the philosopher once said, “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”

Criticism is a part of every day life for the majority of people. Especially so for serious believers in the Lord Jesus Christ in today’s society where truth is relative and every one lives by their own opinions. Thus Christians are often seen as narrow-minded and bigoted because we hold to the absolute truth of Scripture.

The mainstream media, talk shows on radio, and television now spend most of their airtime presenting news laced with various degrees of criticism. Cheap shots are common on late-night television, and drive-by assassins take aim by the minute on the internet. Follow the comment section on most websites and you’ll find a boatload of hypercritical, cynical, rough comments and attacks. 

Anywhere there’s an opportunity to weigh in with an opinion, the comments are unfiltered and fierce. Without a bridle and free of hesitation, people are openly judgmental and critical of topics they know little about and, even worse, people they know nothing about. Criticism has more bandwidth than ever before, and it’s not going away. We’ve all been criticized by someone for something at some time. No one is exempt from criticism, but it’s dangerous to live your life attempting to avoid it.

Many people who feel insecure and are not walking in the assurance of God’s love and acceptance concentrate on avoiding criticism. When you concentrate too much on avoiding criticism you become an overly cautious, compromised version of who you are meant to be. So, as Aristotle said, “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”

You’ll still be criticized by somebody, because you can’t please everybody. So, if living a life of purpose is important to you, you can save yourself a lot of internal struggle by deciding that your goal is not to avoid being criticized. That’s way too small a goal for somebody who wants their life to count. It’s better and so much more rewarding to focus on being the best you can be and not worry too much about the critics.

Doing this takes courage today more than ever before. The reality is that the more good you attempt to do, the more vulnerable you will be to criticism. In regard to doing good, Eleanor Roosevelt (wife of a former president of the United States) said, “Do what you feel in your heart is right – for you’ll be criticized anyway.” 

Jesus spoke of the certainty of criticism when He said that John and He were targets of unavoidable criticism. Although they were deserving of respect, people still found something to criticize. He said, “John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon!’ The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Here is a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners’” (Matthew 11:18-19)

One way to look at it is by realizing that if you’re doing your best and being criticized, you are in good company with some great people. If Jesus, who was perfect, still had critics, then what chance do any of us of not having critics? Even though criticism is not new, social media has given every critic a microphone, and the volume has gone way up. It’s more essential than ever that anyone who is going to do life and make an impact for Jesus in their world not try to avoid bering criticized.

What’s worse than the criticism  itself is the effect that criticism has on the people who hear it. The cause of the effect is usually unknown, because no one actually credits criticism as the culprit. It just sounds too weak to admit, “I’m afraid of criticism.” But, even though it’s under the radar for most people, the fear of criticism is having a greater effect on modern society than most people realize.

The best people with the greatest potential are choosing to avoid the criticism that comes with putting themselves out there, which leaves the lesser-qualified in charge. Talented, competent people who have a lot to offer are second-guessing whether they want to subject themselves to the scrutiny that goes along with the pursuit of their dreams. It’s as if the fear of criticism has turned into a massive epidemic that is harder than ever to overcome. 

People are playing it too safe by communicating a boring vanilla version of their ideas instead of taking aim at the extraordinary. People are holding back instead of contributing, in order to avoid having their ideas criticized.

      • The fear of criticism is why people who have something to say don’t speak up
      • The fear of criticism is why most people struggle to make decisions
      • The fear of criticism is why we’re uncomfortable with vulnerability
      • The fear of criticism is why most people get defensive when other people offer helpful suggestions

Listening to the never-ending sounds of criticism around you is making it more and more difficult to get past the fear that you won’r measure up to expectations and will be judged severely as a result. 

You can’t help being aware of criticism, but there’s a big difference between being aware of criticism and being controlled by criticism. But since the criticism is here to stay, the question is, what can we do to counter the negative impact it’s having, which is causing some of the best and greatest people to live quiet and less productive lives?

Pushing past the fear of criticism starts by not trying to avoid it, by not changing our course when we know there’s criticism ahead. If we can stop avoiding criticism, we’ll end up where we are meant to be, living the life we are meant to live – the adventure the Lord has planned for everyone who declared they are true believers. 

Who Do You Think You Are?

As believers we need to discover who we really are in Christ. And, I don’t just mean rhyming off a bible verse or two … “I am an ambassador of Christ,” “I am a minister of reconciliation,” I am a new creature in Christ” (see 2 Corinthians 5). It’s all head knowledge and simple information unless it has become a reality in your life. Changes your life. Makes you live big!

As we saw the last time (Blog: Don’t Fence Me In – Blog for March 13, 2020) we can live small when we are really meant to live big, powerful, expansive lives.

We didn’t fence you in. The smallness you feel comes from within you. Your lives aren’t small, but you’re living them in a small way. I’m speaking as plainly as I can and with great affection. Open up your lives. Live openly and expansively!”

Let’s list how internal smallness affects you…

        • It causes us to be self-conscious
        • It cause us to be slow to compliment and encourage others
        • It keeps us from responding to others – not expressing thoughts and feelings
        • It cause us to be slow to celebrate the wins of others
        • It causes us to be very poor conversationalists
        • It means we will speak out of our insecurity and wound others
        • It means we will be be very poor listeners as we talk too much to hide our insecurities and smallness
        • It causes us to engage in petty and negative conversations where people complain, gossip, and criticize
        • It causes us to be envious of other people’s success
        • It causes us to shrink ourselves to stay as small a target as possible so the world won’t shoot us down
        • It causes us to pass up opportunities to contribute – being careful not to put ourselves out there where we risk saying the wrong thing or having our ideas rejected by others
        • It causes us to take things too personally
        • It causes us to assume the worst in people or about people
        • It cause us to put the focus on what we want to avoid – pain, confrontation, and embarrassment – instead of what we want to accomplish
        • It causes us to let criticism lay us low rather than help us grow
        • It causes us to be inhibited to love out loud – not free to say love, show love, or feel love
        • It causes us to turn inward, shut down, and withdraw emotionally
        • It causes us to make excuses rather than owning our choices, our moods, and our behaviour

I’m sure when you look at this list, at least some of these are habits that feel harmless right now in your own life. You are so intent on being comfortable in the moment that you are willing to overlook the consequences in the future. That is sad! That’s thinking small and living small. It is not living openly and expansively. 

When you look around you for people who model bigness, it’s not always easy to differentiate between those who appear to be big on the inside and those who actually are. Being big on the inside is not the same as being popular, being wealthy, or having a big, outgoing personality. In fact, some of the most popular, wealthy, and big-personality people are small inside. Once you get past the outer layer of their positions and persona, you often see their internal struggle with smallness. You start to see glimpses of their struggle with insecurity. You start to hear about who bothers them, what worries them, what they dread most, what irritates them, and what triggers a bad mood or even a paranoia of some kind. They can be petty, have issues with other people, carry grudges from the past, and have a hard time celebrating the success of others.,

On the other hand, there are people who are just the opposite. When you first look at them, you see them as pretty average. They don’t have big personalities; they are not loud or the center of attention. The more you get to know them, the more you start to see glimpses of unusual confidence and courage. You start to realize how positive they are in their conversations. They think well of others. They believe the best about the future. They don’t take themselves too seriously. They are uncomplicated, have a genuine love for life, and are comfortable putting themselves out there as if they have nothing to lose. 

So, who do you think you are? And, how do others see you? Something to ponder.

Don’t Fence Me In

A year or two before I was born a song was written that was sung by many and made famous by Roy Rogers, the Singing Cowboy. If you are not familiar with the song – click here for a copy of it recorded by Bing Crosby …

I was particularly struck by the title that has stuck with me for decades …”Don’t Fence Me In.” As I was recently reading 2 Corinthians 6:12-13 in The Message version again this phrase caught my attention …

We didn’t fence you in. The smallness you feel comes from within you. Your lives aren’t small, but you’re living them in a small way. I’m speaking as plainly as I can and with great affection. Open up your lives. Live openly and expansively!”

And, if you search a little bit you will find that a former prime minister of Israel is quoted as saying: “Life is too short to be little.” (Benjamin Disraeli)

As believers we should feel confident in the love that God has shown us in His Son Jesus. And this confidence in His love, acceptance, and forgiveness should be the foundation upon which we build and live life. And, this life should be wide open and vulnerable because we have experienced and know the love of God. We should live transparent and be open and vulnerable; living without fear of criticism and rejection. As Paul states, “If God is for us (and He is), then what does it matter who is against us.” 

So, I can live fearlessly not allowing fear to fence me in. I can override past disappointments so they do not prevent me from obtaining today’s possibilities. I can see over the fence and realize that everything is working together for my good. I can refuse to be petty and insist that I look for the good in everything and ever one. Not being fenced in allows me to embrace the people who love me, stick with me, encourage me, and are there for me. I am reminded that these relationships are priceless and are the result of pressing in to people, believing in people, loving people, taking risks in relationships, and being open to the possibility of friendship and relationship. None of which happens when I am fenced in by my past, by shame, by fear or by __________________ (you fill in the blank). 

When I take the time and make the effort to remove my fences, without exception I always look back with gratitude that I did so. Regardless of how things turn out, I always feel a sense of fulfillment knowing that I gave it my best and didn’t play it safe staying behind the fence and wearing a mask (refusing to be the real me before others). This allows me, as well, to keep living in the confidence that God provides through His promises and presence in my life.

Living outside the fence in the fullness of who we are releases us to bless others. It allows you to give yourself permission to speak up, to help out, to take you to new places of faith and confidence that you have never experienced before because you lived life behind the fence – fenced in by your insecurities, past experiences, the pain you have encountered, and the failures and rejection you have experienced. Now you are free of the fences and can become aware of your untapped possibilities, untrained talent, and underdeveloped strengths. 

So, listen again, to Paul’s words…

We didn’t fence you in. The smallness you feel comes from within you. Your lives aren’t small, but you’re living them in a small way. I’m speaking as plainly as I can and with great affection. Open up your lives. Live openly and expansively!”

Grab hold of the truths…

      • No one has fenced you in – if there are fences it is because you built them
      • God does not build fences to contain and control you
      • If you are living ‘small’ it is because you choose to (it comes from within)
      • Your were not made to be small or insignificant – you are not small as a person but you have chosen to ‘live small’
      • You have a choice to open your life and live fully being vulnerable and transparent
      • If you chose to live freely then it means you live openly and expansively

Time to remove the fences and make “Don’t Fence Me In” your theme song for this season in your life. 

Life Is About a Cause, Not the Applause

I have discovered that life is best when comfort is not the goal, hesitation is not your habit, and complacency is your enemy. If you are going to “earnestly contend for the faith” (Jude 1) and enter into the fullness of the adventure Jesus has planned for you then comfort is not something to seek, hesitation becomes an enemy, and complacency can have no place in your daily life. 

Life is about responding to the opportunities, joining the team, being all in on the mission. It’s about leaving the cheap seats, getting out of the bleachers, and heading for the field. And doing so now!

Life is about getting involved in the cause of Jesus. It’s raising your hands to volunteer at church, serve in your community, and live to make a difference. Life is about the cause, not the applause.

I just read this recently in a book that I was recently handed…

On April 23, 1910, President Theodore Roosevelt gave a speech titled “The Man in the Aren.” It would become one of the most widely quoted speeches of his career. 

“The poorest way to face life is to face it with a sneer,” he said. “A cynical habit of thought and speech, a readiness to criticize work which the critic himself never tries to perform, an intellectual aloofness which will not accept contact with life’s realities – all these are marks, not … of superiority but of weakness.” 

His message was inspirational and passionate. He went on today:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood: who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

In much the same way, our lives are filled with God-given opportunities that deserve to be met with an uninhibited display of openness and readiness. In order to live fully free, here’s what you have to know with absolute certainty and complete confidence: You have to embrace the life that God gave you and engage with it and do so with all of your being to be fully alive and fulfilled. 

There Is Only One You!

There is only one you. God can’t bless who you pretend to be. However, many of us have learned to wear a number of hats as we fill a number of roles in life. And the right ‘hat’ allows us to fit in to a social group or a gang of friends. 

Right from the start when we are born we are unashamedly real and are just who we are. We are not self-conscious and really don’t care what others think about us. We don’t wear ‘hats’ pretending to be someone we are not.

But, as we grow older and start school we have officially become self-conscious. We start to wonder what other people think about us. That’s where we start wearing different ‘hats’. It begins as an effort to either conform to or reject the social norms and expectations of those around us. We dress a certain way; we act a certain way; we like this but not that … all determined by social norms and the expectations of others. In the midst of this, we forget who we really are as we become who others want us or need us to be. And, as a result the real you often gets lost and even buried because of the ‘hats.’

The “hats” we wear help us maintain dignity in social settings and relational environments. But the “hats” can also separate us from our unique and authentic self.

One reason so many people struggle to know who they are meant to be is that they have spent all their life being who they are supposed to be. All their life they have tried to measure up to the expectations of those around them. Most of us have a whole bunch of hats that we have worn at one time or another in an attempt to fit in, follow protocol, and meet expectations. And, as a result we end up being someone we are not!

When our ‘hats’ start to dictate the choices we make, the freedom we have, the joy we feel, and the expressions we give, that’s when the ‘hats’ have to come off.

When a ‘hat’ gets in the way of us connecting and doing life in community, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ causes us to confuse who others say we have to be with who we are meant to be, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ hinders us from putting our whole heart into serving God, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ causes us to withdraw into observation versus a life of participation, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ causes us to close up or shut down emotionally, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ keeps us from having fun and enjoying life, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ makes us self-conscious and afraid of what people are saying and thinking about us, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ stops us from expressing our love for God, family, and friends, it has to come off. 

When a ‘hat’ becomes our cover-up for past pain that God wants to heal, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ makes us shrink back from opportunities, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ makes us unapproachable, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ turns us into a poser or a pretender, it has to come off.

When a ‘hat’ causes pride and disconnects us from the people God connected us with, it has to come off. 

We don’t take our ‘hat’ off because it makes us feel safe and secure. It allows us to fit in even when we really don’t care to fit in. But, if the ‘hat’ you are wearing and that defines you is not the real you then relationships remain shallow, intimacy is impossible, freedom from fear is never experienced, God’s purpose is not fulfilled, your potential is never discovered, and your best life is never lived. 

Time to take the ‘hat’ off. There is only one you!