Be Who God Created You To Be! – Part Two

Here is a truth to ponder: “If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price.”

If you have a low self-image and don’t value who you are and where you are in life, here are some things you can do to bring your opinion of yourself up to a healthy level.

1> Guard your self-talk

Whether you know it or not, you have a running conversation with yourself all the time. What is the nature of yours? Do you encourage yourself? Or do you criticize yourself? If you are positive, then you help to create a positive self-image. If you’re negative, you undermine your self-worth. Where does negative, critical self-talk come from? Usually from your upbringing. In the book The Answer, the authors talk about the negative messages children receive growing up. They state: “By the time you’re seventeen years old, you’ve heard ‘No, you can’t,’ an average of 150,000 times. You’ve heard ‘Yes, you can,’ about 5,000 Times. That’s thirty nos for every yes. That makes for a powerful belief of ‘I can’t.’

That’s a lot to overcome. It can take a long time to start believing in yourself; believing that you can change. If we want to change our lives, we have to change the way we think of ourselves. If we want to change the way we think of ourselves, we need to change the way we talk to ourselves. And the older we are, the more responsible we are for how we think, talk, and believe. Don’t you have enough problems in your life already? Why add to them by discouraging yourself every day with negative self-talk?

When I was growing up, my father would always say, “If you set your mind to it, you can do it.” And, after hearing it hundreds, if not thousands, of times I actually came to believe it. And since my early twenties I have been saying the same thing to myself whenever I come to a place where I need to change, head in a new direction, learn a new skill, or do something I have never done before. 

You need to learn to become your own encourager, your own cheerleader. Every time you do a good job, don’t just let it pass; give yourself a compliment. Maybe even reward yourself. Every time you choose discipline over indulgence, don’t tell yourself that you should have anyways, recognize how much you are helping yourself. Every time you make a mistake, don’t bring up everything that’s wrong with yourself; tell yourself that you’re paying the price for personal growth and that you will learn to do better next time. Every positive thing you can say to yourself will help.

2> Stop comparing yourself to others

What happens when you compare yourself to others? Usually it’s one of two things: either you perceive the other person to be far ahead of you and you feel discouraged, or you perceive yourself to be better than the other person, and you become proud. Neither of those is good for you, and neither will help you to grow.

Comparing yourself to others is really a needless distraction.; the only one you should compare yourself to is you. Your mission is to become better today than you were yesterday. Yo do that by focusing on what you can do today to improve and grow. Do that enough, and if you look back and compare the you of weeks, months, or years ago to the you of today, you should be greatly encouraged by your progress.