Time to Grow and Change – Part One

As I age and look forward to another year of life and ministry in 2020 I am rededicating my life to continuing to grow, expand my knowledge and understanding, and move forward with greater capacity for life and ministry than ever before. It has been said that personal growth increases your capacity. And, as the old Nike commercial once stated, “There is no finish line.”

Have you maxed out your capacity? Have you reached your full potential as a person? Hopefully, like me, you can say a resounding “no.” I believe that if you are still breathing and you are of sound mind, then you have the potential to keep increasing your capacity. In the book, “If It Ain’t Broke … Break It! the authors write, “We don’t have a clue as to what people’s limits are. All the tests, stopwatches, and finish lines in the world can’t measure human potential. When someone is pursuing their dream, they’ll go far beyond what seems to be their limitations. The potential that exits within us is limitless and largely untapped … when you think of limits, you create them.”

How do you push towards your potential and keep increasing your capacity? How can you live without placing limits upon yourself? The only way to increase your capacity internally is to change the way you approach personal growth. Learning more information isn’t enough. You must change how you think and you must change your actions. 

I have read that most experts believe people typically use only 10 percent of their true potential. That statement is truly staggering! If that is true, then the average person has huge capacity for improvement. It’s as if we possess hundreds of acres of possibilities but keep only half an acre under cultivation. So how do we tap into the unused 90 percent? The answer is found in changing how we think and what we do. 

How do we need to think?

1> Stop thinking more work and start thinking what works?

Ask most people how they increase their capacity and they’ll tell you be working more. There’s a problem with that solution. More work will not necessarily increase your capacity. More of the same usually results in more of the same, when what we actually want is better than what we have.

Most people work hard and keep at it for long hours. This is especially true of people in ministry. We need to realize that we are often valuing effort over effectiveness. In my life I discovered that I was doing a lot of things instead of the right things. My to-do list kept getting longer, but my impact was not increasing. I realized that I had to change my thinking. So, I am currently looking at everything I am doing and everything I am involved in and I am asking, “What works?” and “What is giving me a good return for my efforts?”

That’s what I recommend you do. Figure out what works best for you. To do that, ask yourself the following three questions:

      • What am I required to do?
      • What gives the greatest return?
      • What gives me the greatest reward?

These questions will help you to focus your attention on what you must do, what you ought to do, and what you really want to do.

      • What am I required to do? – What you must do
      • What gives the greatest return? – What you ought to do
      • What gives me the greatest reward? – What you really want to do

You will be seriously amazed at what you discover and instantly recognize some basic things that need to change in the way you think and approach life – personal and professional life, home and work life. 

More next time…

I Want To Keep Growing

At the start of this month, 50 years ago, I preached my first sermon. And, during those 50 years I have continued to read and learn hopefully growing wiser each year. Throughout those years I have been very aware of what areas I need to be growing in and how to improve in those areas. So, my skill set has grown and improved, being constantly sharpened and increased. And, I study in a wide variety of areas so I can teach and live life with a wider perspective. As a result I have a tremendous store of information both in books and in computerized notes and teachings and even stored in my mind and heart. 

Knowing ‘what’ to improve and ‘how’ to improve are critical to consistency in personal growth. But so is knowing ‘why’. The ‘how’ and ‘what’ will take you only so far. The ‘why’ is what keeps you motivated long after the first rush of energy and enthusiasm wears off. It can carry you through when willpower isn’t enough. Think of it as why-power.

I love the story of the salesman who looked out the window of the hotel restaurant at a blinding snowstorm. He asked his waiter, “Do you think the roads will be clear enough in the morning to travel?”

The waiter replied, “Depends on if you’re on salary or commission.”

Having a strong ‘why’ will help you keep going when the discipline of learning becomes difficult, discouraging, and tedious. If your growth is connected to your values, dreams, and purpose, you’ll know ‘why’ you’re doing it. And you will be more likely to follow through.

One of the ways to judge whether you have tapped into your ‘whys’ is to take what is called the “Why Test.” Your answers to the following questions seven questions will let you know if your ‘why’ is solid enough to motivate you to consistently grow:

      • Question 1: Do you constantly procrastinate on important tasks?
      • Question 2: Do you require coaxing to do small chores?
      • Question 3: Do you perform duties just to get by?
      • Question 4: Do you constantly talk negatively about your work?
      • Question 5: Do efforts of friends to encourage you irritate you instead?
      • Question 6: Do you start small projects and abandon them?
      • Question 7: Do you avoid self-improvement opportunities?

If you answer yes to many of these questions, you haven’t tapped into a strong enough or big enough ‘why’ to keep you growing.

There is a relationship between motivation – the ‘why’ – and discipline. If you think about it, you can see that discipline and motivation are two sides of the same coin. If you have the motivation you need, discipline is no problem. If you lack motivation (the ‘why’), discipline is always a problem. 

You have to give yourself more and bigger ‘whys’ so you can keep wanting to put in the effort to grow. The greater number of reasons you give yourself to grow, the more likely you will be to follow through. Of course, in certain circumstances one really compelling ‘why’ can also be enough, as Kenyan world-class runner Bernard “Kip” Lagat demonstrated when he was interviewed during the Sydney Olympics. He was asked how his country was able to produce so many great distant runners. His answer: “It’s the road signs: ‘Beware the Lions.’”

When you make the right choices – however small – and do it consistently over time, it can make a huge difference in your life. If you remember ‘why’ you are making those choices, it becomes easier. But to continue to reach your goals and have a life that has meaning and purpose you must continue to learn and to grow. It must be a constant in your life. 

Doing What God Has Called You To Do 

My spiritual life and personal walk with God is in a season for massive change. As a result, my ministry is in a season of flux as the things He is asking me to do are new and different than in the past. And those things that seem to be remaining the same – such as teaching and prophesying – are being done differently. So, I have been thinking deeply about change in this season of change.

To move from what you are doing now to what you want to do is a process. No matter if you are in ministry, in the business world, an academic, or simply someone who is sensing change in your spiritual life – there is a process you are becoming involved in. Here is what I am discovering and learning…


Darren Hardy, the publisher of SUCCESS magazine, says, “Picture where you are in [any] area, right now. Now picture where you want to be: richer, thinner, happier, you name it. The first step toward change is awareness. If you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, you have to start by becoming aware of the choices that lead you away from your desired destination. Become very conscious of every choice you make today so you can begin to make smarter choices moving forward.”

You cannot change direction if you aren’t aware that you’re not headed where you want to go. That probably sounds obvious. But have you taken the time to look at where your current choices and activities are taking you? Spend some time really thinking about where you’re presently headed. If it’s not where you want to go, then write out what steps you need to take to go where you desire to go, to do what you want to do. Make them as tangible and practical as possible. 

Will they definitely be the right steps? Maybe, maybe not. But you won’t know for sure until you start moving forward. As I have always said, “God can steer a moving car better than a parked one.”


You cannot win if you don’t begin! The people who get ahead in the world are the ones who look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, they make them. That means taking initiative. If means doing something specific every day that will take you another step closer to your desired goal. It means continuing to do it every day. Nearly all successes are the fruit of initiative. And, no step or change is too small. You don’t succeed by making major decisions resulting in major change. Solid, good, productive change takes place one small step, one small decision, one small change at a time. 


Few things prompt a person to follow through like accountability. One of the ways you can do that is to make your goals public. When you tell others about what you intend to do, it puts pressure on you to keep working on it. You can request that specific individuals ask you about your progress. It’s similar to having a deadline to keep you moving. You can even write things down as a form of accountability. That’s what Darren hardy suggests. He says that you should track every action that pertains to an area where you want to see improvement and change, whether it relates to finances, health, career, or relationships. “Simply carry around a small notebook, something you’ll keep in your pocket or purse at all times, and a writing instrument,” says Hardy. “You’re going to write it all down. Every day. Without fail. No excuses, no exceptions. As if Big Brother’s watching you. Doesn’t sound like much fun, I know – writing things down on a little piece of paper. But tracking my progress and missteps is one of the reasons I’ve accumulated the success I have. The process forces you to be conscious of your decisions.”


If you become aware of the steps you must take to do what you want to do, take action, and become accountable for following through, you will begin to produce the behaviour you desire and you will start getting closer to doing what you want to do. And that will start to result in a positive side effect: You start attracting like-minded people. 

John Maxwell taught me that “Who you are is who you attract.” That is true in every aspect of life. As your mother used to say, “Birds of a feather flock together.”

If you want to be around growing people, become a growing person. If you’re committed, you attract others who are committed. If you’re growing, you attract others who are growing. This puts you in a position to begin building a community of like-minded people who can help one another succeed. 

So, God has called me to make some changes in what I do and how I do things. These are the four steps I have been working through to move from here to there. To move from what I have been doing to fulfill God’s plan for my life to doing new things and even some old things in new ways thus moving slowly towards the fullness of God’s changing call on my life. 

I have been taking time to review where I am at in my life and looking at where I know God wants me to be. And, as Jesus said, I’m counting the cost. But, now I am ready to make daily and consistent changes to bring me to this new place in my own life and in the ministry. 

Focus On Others…

If we spend time with Jesus, then we will naturally be driven to do the things that Jesus did. In other words, if you tell me you are hanging out with Jesus every day and yet there is no desire in your life to share your faith, or love those he gave his life for, then we should probably dig a little deeper to find out what version of Jesus we are talking about.

Jesus gave his life for others, and one of the freeing realizations you can come to is that life isn’t about you. It’s not about me, either. Life is about knowing Jesus and making him known as we relate to and serve others. Life is about extending amazing grace to people one wretch at a time. We all start wretched; we all need to be shown the way back to God. It takes discipline to keep another’s relation with God at the forefront of your thinking, but it’s a discipline you will never regret. 

Start here: the next time a friend pops into your head, instead of thinking the same old thoughts about them – thoughts based on popularity, clothes, work, school, money, their family, their house, their car, and how you compare to them – try thinking about where they are with God first. How would you like others to be praying for you? I need people to pray for me, and I can guarantee the same is true of each person God has brought into your life. With that friend in mind, say, “God, please bless him today. Please be near to him in a way he can sense. Help him overcome whatever obstacles he’s facing. Give me opportunities to share your hope with him.”

Then, text that person and say, “Hey, thinking about you. Hope you’re doing well. Praying for you today.”

I try to send texts like that every day, and I am always amazed by the responses I get back. Not everyone responds, of course. But, when they do, they tell me how it touched their lives and how big a deal it was to hear from me. Think about it, when was the last text like that you got? Let’s start a new trend.

Another habit I try to maintain as I’m on the go is to ask God to bring me opportunities to encourage strangers. I have actually entered into some neat, and often lengthy, conversations with people I did not know but now keep in regular contact with. And, a number of them, over time, have come to know the Lord. 

In my personal experience Christians spend much too much time talking about themselves. And much too little time listening to others. We need to learn how to hear the life story of others without feeling like we have to jump in and fix something that really is not broken. And even if what you want to share is an experience that you have had that is similar to what they are sharing, they don’t need nor want to hear it. Just sit and listen. And, once they have shared then ask them if you can pray for them. Right then. Right there. Don’t jump into your experience and bore them with your story. The purpose of the encounter is to hear them out and pray for them. We are too quick to speak. 

Even when I sit and chat with pastors and leaders of ministries… I sit and listen. Partly because they need someone to listen to them and, if they trust me, I am certainly a good listener. I don’t need to share what I have done, where I travel, what I have seen happen. So, I listen and care and then pray with them. And, partly because they really are so wounded that they don’t even think about how I am doing or even who I am. They are hurting and are deeply wounded, so focused on themselves and not really interested in who I am or what I am doing in life or in ministry. 

So, no matter who the person is – when God gives you an opportunity just listen intently and engage in the story they are sharing. Then, don’t offer your great wisdom and insight. Stay focused on others. Just pray with them. God will do the rest. 

Now, if they ask your advice – that is a totally different situation. However, I have found that people seldom ask for advice. They just want and need someone to care about them and to listen. Remember, people’s favourite topic is themselves. So listen and pray. 

Two Simple Habits

Despite the thousands of good habits we could adopt in our lives as believers, according to the broad-brush themes of the Bible, I would suggest that there are two basic habits we all need to adopt. “Sit and wait” habits and “go and do” habits.

God says we are to be still and know that He is God, and that we are to wait on His voice and His guidance and His peace. And then He says that faith without works is dead faith. And that a primary purpose in our lives is to go and share the Gospel of the Kingdom with people who need to be saved.

Jesus says, “Come into my presence. Still your mind. Quiet your thoughts. Hear from me. And then take the grace and peace I’ve given you to a chaotic and embittered world.”

If you crave a reset and a change in your daily routine, then this two-part sequence is for you. First, sit and wait. And then, in God’s Name, go and do.

Sit and Wait:

Tomorrow, start your day with a simple prayer. Before your feet hit the floor, say, “God, today I want to follow you. I want to hear your voice. I want to feel joy and peace and fulfillment. I want to live today as your child.” After you pray, open up a passage of the Bible and read until a verse strikes you as relevant to the situation you are in. Write the verse down – log it on your phone, grab a dry-erase marker and jot it down on your mirror, scribble it on your hand – and come back to it throughout your day, letting the power of God’s truth wash over you again and again.

Go and Do:

Next, as you work to stay in conversation with God throughout your day, ask him to give you the strength and courage to practice being grateful and kind and wise. Start with little things, like making eye contact with a stranger and saying hello, or reaching out to a friend with an encouraging word, or changing the subject when a friend starts gossiping to you about someone, or saying thanks but no thanks when you’re offered the drink or the pill or the bong or whatever the thing is that usually leaves you deflated and derailed.

Day by day, add a few small habits that lead to life, and subtract a few that don’t. Over time, you will be remade. You will see drastic and permanent change in your life and in your relationships. As Paul said in his famous letter to the church in Rome – “Do not conform to the pattern of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing, and perfect will” (Romans 12:2)

Learn Something New Every Day

I begin each day with the determination to learn something new, experience something different, or meet someone I don’t already know. Doing this requires three things. First, you must wake up with an attitude of openness to something new. You must see the day as having multiple opportunities to learn something new.

Second, you must keep your eyes and ears open as you go through the day. Most unsuccessful people accept their day, tuning things out, simply hoping to endure it. They let life happen to them. They are passive. They are reactive and not proactive. 

Most successful people seize the day, focusing in, ignoring distractions. Growing people remain focused, yet maintain a sensitivity and awareness that opens them up to new experiences.

The third component is reflection. It does little good to see something new or learn something new without taking time to think about it. It does no good to hear something new without applying it. I have found that the best way to learn something new is to take the time at the end of the day to ask myself questions that prompt me to think about what I have learned. For years I have made it a practice to review my day and pull out the highlights. Remember, experience is not the best teacher; evaluated experience is. 

So, every day I set aside time to read. I read, on average, two medium sized books a week. This means turning off the television and excusing myself from chatting with whoever is in the house, and going upstairs to my study, making a coffee, and actually focusing on whichever book it is that I am currently reading. I also turn the cell phone off.

When I spend time out of the house meeting people and doing normal life I have a book with me. I may end up in line for a few minutes or have to wait 20 minutes for an appointment to arrive because they are running late. I get to read. Now with ebook readers, this is even simpler than ever before. However, I still carry a paper book with me most times. When I am on flights heading somewhere to minister I leave the seat-back screen off. I grab my book and I read. 

So, every day I am learning something new and applying what I am learning, reflecting on how it might change my life. 

I have recently read an autobiography of a former First Lady of the United States; a true story of a gifted young man who became a drug addict and what it did to his family as he struggled with the addiction. I have read two leadership books by a former mentor. And several books on relationships. I am currently reading the story of a English gentleman who left the corporate world to start a bookstore in London, England which went on to create a large chain of bookstores through that nation; a book on the fentanyl epidemic in North America, and the autobiography of the captain of Starship Voyager – Kate Mulgrew. 

Every day I look for something that I can read, someone I can speak to, some place where I can go so as to continue learning and growing. It makes life more of an adventure and it is never boring. 

The Stronger Your Character…

I work with a lot of young men who have tremendous calls upon their lives. God has a powerful destiny for each one of them. I see that potential and work to help them release it and enter into the fullness of who God has called them to be and what He has called them to do for Him. However, many times all of this is short-circuited by the lack of character in the person’s life. They simply don’t take the time to work on who they are – their character. Things such as trustworthiness, respect, honesty, responsibility, fairness, compassion, caring. You get the idea. 

Pulitzer Prize winning author Alexander Solzhenitsyn spent eight years in prison during the Soviet era for criticizing Joseph Stalin. He went into prison an atheist and came out a person of faith. The experience didn’t leave him bitter. It left him grateful for the development of his faith and the strengthening of his character. Looking back on the experience, he said, “I bless you, prison – I bless you for being in my life – for there lying on rotting prison straw, I learned the object of life is not prospering as I had grown up believing , but the maturing of the soul.” 

If we desire to grow and reach our potentials we must pay more attention to our character – the maturing of our soul –  than to our success. We must recognize that personal growth means more than expanding our minds and adding to our skills. It means increasing our capacity as human beings. It means maintaining core integrity, even when it hurts. It means being who we should be, not just focusing on being where we want to be. It means maturing our souls.

Physician and author Orison Swett Morden once described a successful person by saying, “He was born mud and dies marble. This gives us an interesting metaphor to use to look at various lives. Some people are born mud and remain mud … Sadly, some are born marble and die mud; some are born mud, dream of marble, but remain mud. But many persons of high character have been born mud and died marble.”

That is a great thought. And, we can reach “marble” if we take the time to be self-reflective coming to know who we are on the inside. Character is really who you are when no one is looking. When you are free to allow the inside to be seen on the outside. As we come to know ourselves better we can then see areas of our character that need some attention and some hard work. This allows the mud to become marble. But, it is a personal choice we each need to make. 

A great place to start is understanding the fruit of the Spirit as listed in Galatians 5:22… 

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control…” These are part of the very nature and character of God Himself. And, as we journey on our path and run the race as disciples and believers one of the goals must be to become more and more like Jesus. And, these fruit describe so well the basic character and nature of Jesus as we see Him in the pages of the four gospels. 

Remember, the stronger your character the greater your potential for personal growth and maturity. 

Going Or Growing Through Life – Part Five

We have a choice. We can go through life or we can grow through life. We are currently looking at what we must be willing to give up so that we can grow up. Obviously some things are established and not negotiable. However, we need to determine which things we are willing to give up as we grow up. We saw yesterday …

1> I am willing to give up financial security today for potential tomorrow

2> I am willing to give up immediate gratification for personal growth

3> I am willing to give up the fast life for the good life

4> I am willing give up security for significance

Most people I know their goal in life is to be secure. Emotional security, physical security, and financial security. But it is never wise to measure progress and growth according to the level of  security one is experiencing. It is wiser to measure it by significance. And that requires growth. You’ll never get anywhere interesting by always doing the safe thing.

Most people are capable of making a living. That’s the safe thing. The significance thing is making a difference. The great men and women of history were not great because of what they earned and owned, but rather for what they gave up and gave their lives to accomplish. Every trade-off is a challenge to become what and who we really are. Done correctly, we can create opportunities to help others become who they really are. That is significant!

Most people try to take too many things with them as they journey through life. They want to keep adding without giving anything up. It doesn’t work. You can’t do everything; there is only so much time in a day. At some point, you reach your limit. Besides, we need to always remember that if nothing changes, nothing changes!

A lot can be learned about trade-offs from a checkers game. As someone once said: Surrender one to take two; don’t make two moves at one time; move up, not down; and when you reach the top. You have the freedom to move as you like. 

If you want to reach your potential, be ready to make trade-offs. As author James Allen said, “He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would accomplish much must sacrifice much.”

So, write your own personal list of trade-off principles. Use the four I have written about to spark ideas:

      • I am willing to give up financial security today for potential tomorrow
      • I am willing to give up immediate gratification for personal growth
      • I am willing to give up the fast life for the good life
      • I am willing give up security for significance

Think about worthwhile trade-offs you have made in the past that you believe will continue to be good ideas for the future. Also consider what might be needed for you to reach your potential along with what you might need to give up to fulfill it.

Remember, it is just as important for you to know what you are not willing to give up as it is to identify what you are willing to give up. Think through the things that are non-negotiable in your life and list them. Then for each, identify its greatest potential threat and what safety measures you need to put into place to protect it.

What trade-off do you need to make right now that you have been unwilling to make? Most people settle in and learn to live with a limitation or barrier that can be removed by making a trade. What is the next thing you need to trade for? And what must you give up to get it?

Going Or Growing Through Life – Part Four

What kind of trade-offs have you been making so far in your life? Have you thought about it? Have you developed guidelines to help you decide what to strive for and what to give up in return? Let’s look at five trade-offs that may help you to develop your own guidelines.

1> I am willing to give up financial security today for potential tomorrow

Physician and writer George Crane said, “There is no future in any job. The future lies in the man who holds the job.” I have always believed that to be true, and as a result, I have always been willing to bet on myself so much so that I have, at times, accepted financial risks and pay cuts to pursue the call of God on my life.

Why was I willing to take a pay cut when moving forward and growing into my destiny? Because I value opportunity and obedience more than security in life. I believe that the only job security we have is our individual commitment to continual personal development. 

2> I am willing to give up immediate gratification for personal growth

There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. In the book “The Compound Effect” the author writes about the battle most people experience when it comes to weighing instant gratification against doing what’s best for us. The author states, “We understand that scarfing Pop-Tarts won’t slenderize our waistlines. We realize that logging three hours a night watching Dancing With the Stars and NCIS leaves us with three fewer hours to read a good book or listen to a terrific audio. We ‘get’ that merely purchasing great running shoes doesn’t make us marathon-ready. We’re a ‘rational species – at least that’s what we tell ourselves. So why are we so irrationally enslaved by so many bad habits? It’s because our need for immediate gratification can turn us into the most reactive, non-thinking animals around.”

When it comes to growth and success in life, immediate gratification is almost always the enemy of growth. We can choose to please ourselves and plateau, or we can delay our gratification and grow. It’s our choice.

3> I am willing to give up the fast life for the good life

We live in a culture that idolizes movie and music stars, drools over opulent mansions, idealizes travel, and plays the lottery in hopes of someday getting the chance to live the fast life it so admires and emulates. But most of that is an illusion. It’s like the airbrushed image of a model on the front of a magazine. It’s not real.

That’s just one of the reasons you need to choose to forgo the fast life in favour of the good life. What is the good life? In the book “Repacking Your Bags,” the authors offer a formula for the good life. They say it is, “Living in the place you belong, with the people you love, doing the right work, on purpose.” That’s a pretty good description. I would also add that missionary Albert Schweitzer said: “The great secret of success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up.” To keep myself from getting”used up,” I try to create greater capacity in myself by continuing to learn and to grow. Therefore, there will be greater margin in my life, time and space to continue to grow. 

If you want to create capacity and margin in your life, it would be good to consider doing the following things:

        • Delegate so you are working smarter and not just harder
        • Do what you do best and drop the rest
        • Get control of your calendar; otherwise other people will
        • Do what you love because it will give you energy
        • Work with people you like so your energy isn’t depleted

If you do those things while doing the right work with purpose in the right place with people you love, you will be living the good life.

More next time… 

Going Or Growing Through Life – Part Three

We are looking at some of the trade-offs needed to keep growing in life and avoid simply going through life.

A> Trade-offs force us to make difficult personal changes                                                                                                  B> The loss of a trade-off is usually felt long before the gain                                                                                                C> Most trade-offs can be made at any time                                                                                                                            D> A few trade-offs come only once

E> The higher you climb, the tougher the trade-offs

If you are like most people, when you are starting out in life you have little to give up. Trade-offs at this point are easy to make. But as you climb and accumulate some of the good things in life, the trade-offs demand a higher price. Someone once said, “Each success only buys an admission ticket to a more difficult problem.” When you have something to lose trade-offs become a little more difficult. 

When we are at the bottom, we make trade-offs because of desperation. We are highly motivated to change. As we “climb in life,” we change because of inspiration. At this higher level we don’t “have to” any more. We get comfortable. As a result, we don’t make the trade-offs.

One of the dangers of “success” in life is that it can make a person unteachable. Many people are tempted to use their success (read: comfort, security, safety) as permission to discontinue their growth. They become convinced that they know enough to succeed and they begin to coast. They trade innovation and personal growth for a formula, which they follow time after time. They are literally in a rut. However, we need to remember that the skills and knowledge that got you here are probably not the skills that will get you there. This is especially true today when everything is changing quickly. No matter how good things seem to be you can never ‘stand pat.’ If you want to keep growing and learning, you need to keep making trades. And they will cost you.

In the end, when we make trades we are trading one part of ourselves for another part. Author and thinker Henry David Thoreau said, “The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” You give part of your life to receive something back. That may not be easy, but it’s essential.

F> Trade-offs never leave us the same

Business book author Louis Boone asserted, “Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” We all have the power of choice, but every time we make a choice, our choice has power over us. It changes us. Even the bad choices can ultimately help us to change for good, because they clarify our thinking and show us ourselves.

C.S. Lewis wrote a book called “The Great Divorce.” It’s been said that he chose that title because faith requires a choice. If we truly examine it, we must decide which side of the line we want to live on, and that choice causes us to divorce ourselves from things we once held onto. So either way we choose, we aren’t the same after we make the choice. 

G> Some trade-offs are never worth the price

I am all for making trade-offs. I have come to see them and accept them as a way of life. But not everything in my life is on the trading block. I’m not willing to trade my marriage for my career. I’m not willing to trade my relationships for fame or fortune. And I am not willing to trade away my values for anything or anyone. These kind of trade-offs only lead to regret. And they are difficult to recover from.

Trade-offs are always necessary if we are growing through life and not just going through life. Next time, ‘trade-offs worth making.’