We have been looking at good, solid, foundational New Year’s Resolutions that we, as believers, need to make because they are biblical. so far we have seen that our resolutions should include:
1> Commit yourself to forget your failures
2> Commit yourself to give up your grudges
So, today let’s look at a third biblical resolution…
3> COMMIT YOURSELF TO RESTORE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Every time I turn on my computer a little windows pops up that asks if I want to run a check to see if my programmes are all working properly.
God, in his Word, issues a very similar invitation. It is the invitation not to check to see if our computer software is working properly but to check whether our personal relationships are working properly.
Here is how the Lord issues that challenge: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” Romans 12:18
The important phrase there is, “as far as it depends on you” God, in this phrase, is personally challenging each one of us to do all we can to restore our relationships. The Lord wants you to do everything you can to restore any relationships that have gone wrong in your life. Some relationships might have gone wrong in your life because of what other people have done and they might well not want that relationship restored. God recognizes that. That is why He starts by saying “If its possible”
But let’s be honest some of our relationships have gone wrong because of what we have done When God’s word says here: “…as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” It is saying: If you have caused a rift in a relationship then you have a responsibility to do everything you can to restore it. That everything includes the one thing we all probably find most difficult, asking for forgiveness.
Am I the only person who finds it hardest to say “I am sorry” to the people I am closest too?
I wonder how many marriages represented here are not all they should be or could be simply because someone won’t say “I was wrong, I am sorry, will you forgive me” I am certain that some of us who are married need to ask forgiveness for “ harsh words and cutting remarks” that have really wounded our partners over the years.
Maybe God is saying to some of you that this change of year is the right time to restore that relationships you ruined. That it is time to go to that person involved and sincerely saying that you are sorry for those angry words or those selfish and unthoughtful actions.
The goal is to restore the relationship – Not to make sure they realize that you were right all along…
Make no mistake – – it will be hard to do but one of the most significant things that you can do to mark the New Year is to admit your past errors in relationships and humbly seek forgiveness from the one you have hurt.