Focus On Others…

If we spend time with Jesus, then we will naturally be driven to do the things that Jesus did. In other words, if you tell me you are hanging out with Jesus every day and yet there is no desire in your life to share your faith, or love those he gave his life for, then we should probably dig a little deeper to find out what version of Jesus we are talking about.

Jesus gave his life for others, and one of the freeing realizations you can come to is that life isn’t about you. It’s not about me, either. Life is about knowing Jesus and making him known as we relate to and serve others. Life is about extending amazing grace to people one wretch at a time. We all start wretched; we all need to be shown the way back to God. It takes discipline to keep another’s relation with God at the forefront of your thinking, but it’s a discipline you will never regret. 

Start here: the next time a friend pops into your head, instead of thinking the same old thoughts about them – thoughts based on popularity, clothes, work, school, money, their family, their house, their car, and how you compare to them – try thinking about where they are with God first. How would you like others to be praying for you? I need people to pray for me, and I can guarantee the same is true of each person God has brought into your life. With that friend in mind, say, “God, please bless him today. Please be near to him in a way he can sense. Help him overcome whatever obstacles he’s facing. Give me opportunities to share your hope with him.”

Then, text that person and say, “Hey, thinking about you. Hope you’re doing well. Praying for you today.”

I try to send texts like that every day, and I am always amazed by the responses I get back. Not everyone responds, of course. But, when they do, they tell me how it touched their lives and how big a deal it was to hear from me. Think about it, when was the last text like that you got? Let’s start a new trend.

Another habit I try to maintain as I’m on the go is to ask God to bring me opportunities to encourage strangers. I have actually entered into some neat, and often lengthy, conversations with people I did not know but now keep in regular contact with. And, a number of them, over time, have come to know the Lord. 

In my personal experience Christians spend much too much time talking about themselves. And much too little time listening to others. We need to learn how to hear the life story of others without feeling like we have to jump in and fix something that really is not broken. And even if what you want to share is an experience that you have had that is similar to what they are sharing, they don’t need nor want to hear it. Just sit and listen. And, once they have shared then ask them if you can pray for them. Right then. Right there. Don’t jump into your experience and bore them with your story. The purpose of the encounter is to hear them out and pray for them. We are too quick to speak. 

Even when I sit and chat with pastors and leaders of ministries… I sit and listen. Partly because they need someone to listen to them and, if they trust me, I am certainly a good listener. I don’t need to share what I have done, where I travel, what I have seen happen. So, I listen and care and then pray with them. And, partly because they really are so wounded that they don’t even think about how I am doing or even who I am. They are hurting and are deeply wounded, so focused on themselves and not really interested in who I am or what I am doing in life or in ministry. 

So, no matter who the person is – when God gives you an opportunity just listen intently and engage in the story they are sharing. Then, don’t offer your great wisdom and insight. Stay focused on others. Just pray with them. God will do the rest. 

Now, if they ask your advice – that is a totally different situation. However, I have found that people seldom ask for advice. They just want and need someone to care about them and to listen. Remember, people’s favourite topic is themselves. So listen and pray.