Entries by ralph

Life Is Not a Dress Rehearsal

I am amazed that some people live life as if it is a trial run, a dress rehearsal for a second go at it. I am not talking about reincarnation or recycling life. I am talking about the fact that believers are not taking responsibility for their life – who they are, how they live, […]

Few People Want to Stretch

I have observed that most people do not want to change or to grow. They often talk a good talk but the walk is missing. They know what they should do to improve their family, their job, their financial situation, their level of satisfaction and fulfillment. But, they simply don’t do it. And, you can […]

Stretching As a Lifestyle

Too many people are dead but just haven’t made it official yet. I read that comment a few days ago in a great book that I just finished. And, as I read the comment I said, “Amen, so true” and thought of a number of young and middle aged people for whom this would apply. […]

Mentor -Mentee

If you are someone who is dedicated to personal growth, you will always be learning from many people in many places. Occasionally, you will have an opportunity to be mentored on an ongoing basis by an individual. This usually happens because you go looking for the help. Good mentors seldom find you as they are […]

A Good Mentor

A major theme in my life is the desire to add value to people and make a difference in their lives. One of the ways this happens is in a mentoring relationship (see yesterday’s blog – “Christians Can’t Be Passive). A mentor can be a great encourager when the person they are mentoring is wanting […]

Christians Can’t Be Passive

Jesus said, “”From the days of John the Baptist until now the Kingdom of Heaven has suffered violence, and the violent take it by force.” (Matthew 11:12) The Passion Translation reads, “From the moment John stepped onto the scene until now, the realm of heaven’s kingdom is bursting forth, and passionate people have taken hold […]

Hammering Home Your Point – Part Two

We looked at the four Ts of preventing a crisis when dealing with relational issues (see yesterday’s blog – Hammering Home Your Point – Part One). Let’s talk today about trading in your hammer and then treating people with dignity and respect.  Some people seem to think that a hammer is good for anything and […]

Hammering Home Your Point – Part One

When I was younger one of the hit songs was “If I had a Hammer” by Trini Lopez. I know, I am dating myself. You can watch a live performance of the song at: https://binged.it/2oChE2H I was thinking about that song a few morning back as I was thinking of some people I minister to […]

Confrontation – Speaking the Truth in Love – Part Three

The last two times we have seen that: There are two relational truths:  1> Conflict is unavoidable 2> Conflict is difficult We then looked at how to handle relational conflict: 1> Confront a person only if you care for that person 2> Meet together as soon as possible 3> First seek understanding not necessarily agreement […]

Confrontation – Speaking the Truth in Love – Part Two

Last time we looked at two truths: 1> Conflict is unavoidable 2> Conflict is difficult We then began to look at how to handle relational conflict: 1> Confront a person only if you care for that person 2> Meet together as soon as possible 3> First seek understanding not necessarily agreement A significant hindrance to […]